your dad

Hi Ev,

You are 34 today and once again I find myself thinking about the good stuff that's happening in our family, and you are not here. For me, you never age; you get a year older but I can still see you as clear as ever, as the almost 16 year old son, brother, uncle, friend, student, athlete, musician, grateful reflective quiet thinker and observer of people and nature. I don't think anyone here on earth can take credit for all your positive attributes, rather I think you were a short term gift from God.

Ironically, maybe it's spiritually or magically when I opened my notebook today, a flower field at the base of a Washington State Mountain was the Bing image, just like Mt Hood.
I wish you were here to give a big welcome hug to your new niece Clara - she's one happy angel with I think your big blue eyes and lots of curiosity.
Your niece Anna reminds me of you in appearance, interests, and intellect. One of her favorite activities is to go on hikes with your brother Brendan - she calls these hikes her dad "muddy adventure" and like you she is immersed with flowers, trees, and bugs. I wish you were here to take that muddy adventure with Anna, Brendan, Erin; and when Clara gets a bit older with Clara too.

As always, please watch over Mom, Gennie, Clara, Anna, Erin, and Brendan to include his Marine battalion and company and John who makes this web page work.


22 August 2019 at 10:18:10

your dad

Ev, today is 6575 days since you were taken from your family and friends.
Losing you continues to haunt some of us as an ever growing gray cloud.
It's often said that losing a loved one should encourage and promote those with heartbreak and sadness to be even more obsessed with living their life with more gratitude, awareness, and honest purpose.
Ev, despite your short life, your personality and daily actions and interactions with your friends taught us thank God for life; and how to live our life .
Love, dad

15 August 2019 at 09:20:00

your dad

33 Today Ev. I cannot believe that I'm writing to you. I should be speaking to you and giving you a big hand shake and dad hug. I think we all look and reflect a little harder about you on the special Ev days. It's always surprising to me when things that you liked and admired pop up on your special days. Today when I opened my notebook a picture of a sunflower field filled my screen, and it made my heart sink even lower than usual for awhile, but then I remember what Mom says - it's a hello from Evan.
Perhaps the special Ev days will become easier but that's not happening right now so keep sending the hello's. Love, dad

22 August 2018 at 17:05:46

your dad

Seventeen years since your Mt. Hood accident. As your brother Bren
dan has written and said, "it wasn't that your accident could not happen; it should not have happened". You made the world a better place, heaven doesn't need you there
to be better. Perhaps this is why Mom and others say that you go to heaven to help those of us on earth.Please continue to help those in need and watch over Mom, your sister,your bother,your sister in law, your niece, and your soon to be niece 2;and your brother's Marines.

15 August 2018 at 13:16:05

your dad

Happy 32nd Birthday Ev !
5838 days on earth; 5851 days in Heaven.
I miss you more than my words can describe. I suppose this is what agony feels like. Please watch over our family and give all our family members that are now with you a big hug from Mom, Genn, Brendan, Erin, Anna, and me.

22 August 2017 at 14:20:21

your dad

You are now in heaven longer than your time on earth,and everyday I seem to miss you more than the day before. Bless all families that have lost a son, daughter,brother,sister too soon. And God Bless your Mom, Sister, Niece, Sister in law, your Bother and his Marine Battalion.

15 August 2017 at 07:34:42

your dad

Happy Birthday Ev !!! 31 today,WoW. It's hard to grasp that you are now gone for as long as we had you here on earth. I pray that you, my mom, and my dad are all in big birthday group hug today.

22 August 2016 at 05:38:09

your dad

20 August 2016 at 17:34:09


Hi Evan,

We were thinking of you today. I told Gavin about you again today as he gets older he is starting to understand that you may not be here in person, but be assured you are watching him all the time. He needs to be watched ! Continue to watch over your mom, dad , Brendan, Gennie, Erin and Anna. Peace

15 August 2016 at 18:44:05

your dad

Today is another sunny day just like the past 16 August 15th's and the day of your dreadful accident.
Everyone reads, writes and says that time heals all wounds - I'm not buying. As Pearl Jam, one of your favorite groups wrote, escapism is never the safest path.
We've had lots of nice things happen this past year and I always wish you were here to have fun and celebrate with us. Everyday, I ask myself if it's ok to be mad at God ? I suppose you know this answer. I hope that you can inspire Mom, Genn, Bren, Erin, Anna,me; and all parents who have lost a child to keep faith and goodness in their being.

15 August 2016 at 07:07:52


Hi Ev,

While it's been years since I checked in here, you know that I check in with you every day. Every morning, I say an Our Father to start off the day, and I wear something particular to you - a heart, a winged running shoe, an angel, a charm or necklace with your picture. Just to let you know, as I promised 14 years ago, that not a day would go by without keeping your in my/our heart and thoughts. It was an easy promise to keep:) The utter faith remains that you are okay and always near. As much as I wish that I could see you with your new little niece, I know that you're near her and her mom and dad, too.
And we continue to hang in there, with your help. The only regret is that work and your sister keep me so busy, it precludes what I guess is just living. I recall vividly the week before you passed, your telling me that we should all live simply. I'll keep trying to get there. I guess if not in this life, maybe the next:) Thanks for always helping us through the challenges that life presents. And for keeping dear friends, old and new, and family in our lives.
So back to the paradox of feeling you near and yet missing you every day. Feet in the different buckets of spirituality and human-ness. I've found peace in not trying to figure that one out. (Thanks for that tip in the dream:)

Love you, Ev - I'll pass the physical hugs around down here for you!

xo mom

23 August 2015 at 19:56:01

your dad

Happy Birthday Ev !
You should have been 30 years old and alive today. How much I miss you, particularly when our family has good news or reason to celebrate. I wish you were here to hug your new niece Anna; to give Mom a big hug everyday but especially when Mom is having a tough work day; I wish you were here to hug and talk to Gennie - she looks at your pictures every day. I miss having the chance to listen to you, Brendan and Erin talk and interact with each other. A promising, selfless, and good heart-ed life cut short is beyond my ability to understand. All one can do is look for signs that bring your memory back to us. Your memories are an example for me to live by. Please watch over Mom, Genn, Erin , Anna, Bren and his Marine Corp Battalion.

22 August 2015 at 21:09:25

Joe Platt

Thoughts from ND. Remembering the Clark family at this time and memories in Hinsdale, IL and Ignatius.

22 August 2014 at 19:43:23

your dad

Happy 29th Birthday Ev. Per your request we had ice cream cake and like every year it was bitter -sweet.
Thanks for helping all of us through a rather eventful and tumultuous year. I know that Mom, Bren and Erin and me have all asked for your help and in all likelihood will continue to so.
I think back to 1985 rocking you to sleep while we listened to music. We would do this for hours at a time. I knew then how lucky Mom and I were to have you as our son. You gave us so much throughout your short time here. It's almost like you knew that you were not going to be with us very long.
Perhaps I'll understand some day but your early death not only broke my heart but also chipped my soul.

Please watch over Mom, Genn, Erin, Bren and his fellow Marines.


22 August 2014 at 19:09:39


Evan - Happy early birthday from Japan, hard to believe it has been 13 years. I'm not one for words, but you are on my mind often.


21 August 2014 at 04:40:10

your dad

Despite living in Pa.,today was yet again another picture perfect August 15, 2001 Mt.Hood day...bright sun a few big clouds with a mild wind.
Your wind chimes had a busy day. And lots of your music on the radio which makes sense as Woodstock started on Aug. 15th forty five years ago.
So much has happened this past year, I honestly think that our lives cannot get any more complicated or challenging.
Perhaps the best news is that our family will be getting bigger thanks to Bren and Erin. Please watch over your brother and 2 sisters. Each of them and Mom have earned their respective PhD in juggling.
I close my eyes and remember you galloping down that Mt. Hood hill......I will go to my grave not understanding why you were not coming back up.

As always, please watch over Mom, Genn, Erin, Bren and his fellow Marines.


15 August 2014 at 20:41:53


Dear Evan I am so sorry for your death.
I never got to meet you.
I will tell uncle joe about this


03 June 2014 at 18:29:02


Hi Ev,

Now that you are buried next to my parents, I think everyone wonders what you would have done had you lived a longer life. In the broad scheme of time, life is short for all of us. You should all of us what it meant to get busy, be purposeful, and respectful and work hard. When I think back the only time you were not active was when you were sleeping and then when you woke up your guitar chords were staring at you from your bedroom ceiling - I remember how careful you were attaching your music to your ceiling. I wonder what you were dreaming ? I close my eyes and always think of you and sometimes have dreams of our family vacations which were the best of times for me. For 2014, please help all of us fix our personal issues that need fixing because life is short.
Happy New Year Ev - we all continue to miss you very much. Watch over Mom, Genn, Erin, Bren and all the members of his command.


31 December 2013 at 05:26:31

your dad

Hi Ev,

Well much has changed in the last year. Throughout this year mom and I agonized whether we should relocate you closer to where we live.
We've missed visiting your grave and walking around idyllic Bronswood. Mom and I looked at 35 cemeteries in Pa. and decided to move you next to my parents in Pa. You will get lots of family visits and I'm certain requests for help and inspiration. It will be nice to have you closer to home, but it would even be nicer to have you jog with me through Bronswood like we did when you were here.....not that I could keep pace with you.
Please give my parents a hug and watch over Mom, Genn, Erin, Bren and his command

25 November 2013 at 14:00:28

your dad

Happy 28th Birthday Ev.

It's hard to imagine what you would be doing now. You talked and wrote about becoming a Vet, a psychiatrist, and living on the beach. Then again you loved your guitar, running and the girls seem to like you so who knows. All we can do is dream about your future and this makes me sad. I think about all the activities and friends that you had for 15 years. We talked about how you wore your batman cape and goggles when you were 4 - you even wore it for your pre school picture. You have immense drive and imagination. I think about your determination, especially when we are having a tough day with Genn. I really wish Genn would have had more time with you. You always had a way of making things work out and I wish I could learn this gift. You will always remain a gift to us.
Please watch over Mom, Genn, Erin, Bren(and his command).
Love, dad

22 August 2013 at 20:41:14


Hey Evan , sorry for the belated happy birthday, we are all doing fine, your yougest cousin, Gavin is all about guns and archery. His favorite song is ac/dc "thunderstruck " !
Take care and keep a watchful eye on your parents, Brendan, Genn and Erin. God bless Gen clark -5

22 August 2013 at 15:31:57

your dad


Now 12 years since your accident and it's not getting easier, although today's weather was perfect, exactly like the day on Mt. Hood.
I really miss you.
Genn looks a lot like you and this makes me happy, particularly when she's sleeping...she looks like you asleep. Mom has more faith and strength than me so she's sure you are happy and helping our family, friends, and those in need.
Mr Connelly is with you, and I'd like to think that he's coaching you again.
The world and our country are pretty messed up, lots of violence, suffering and moral decay...perhaps you and some of your current neighbors can help. As always please watch over Mom,Genn,Erin,Brendan (and his platoon}.

love dad

15 August 2013 at 18:32:18

your dad

Hi Ev,

One of your best friends Mark D. is a proud father of Mark A. the III. Please keep the entire family healthy and happy.

And not to sound like a broken record, keep Mom, Genn, Bren and Erin healthy and happy too. Watch over Bren an his Marine Corp company these next 4 weeks too.

I thought I would adjust to you being in heaven while the rest of us are here......not yet.

I have often wondered if people's hearts and souls are separable. World events seem to reverberate "whatever whatever" ...

Let's hope we are all on the "Stairway to Heaven" ....I hear you playing your guitar everyday.

Love, dad

19 June 2013 at 14:29:56

your dad

Hi Ev, Today marks the 59th wedding anniversary of grand mom and pop pop. Please give them an all day hug from all of us.

01 May 2013 at 09:56:53

your dad

hi Ev, please wish my Mom happy Birthday today. She's a young 80 today. Give my Dad a big hug too. I miss all of you and I wish I had a stronger faith or better way of coping. And please make sure you show my Aunt Nan, my Dad's sister and your great aunt your heaven's home. Lastly, say hi to our neighbor Lois Keegan your heaven's beauty. In the event that she's wit you in heaven, ask some of your friends to help her with her new adjustment. take care of her earthly husband Bob too.

11 April 2013 at 18:49:20

your dad

Hi Ev,
Not a day goes by that mom and I don't talk about you. I talk to you a lot in my head and I know my does too. I guess I would call this our soul talk.
Mom has better luck with feeling your presence - I love to hear mom say this but after almost 12 years I still get a very heart.
The older mom and I get the busier we get and the more things change. Although 2012 was a good year, I'm am hoping that we can find some stability in our new Pa.home. Most importantly, I am hoping that maybe you and some of your neighbors can help us find some solutions and a good program for Genn. We really miss the Hillegass'. There is no way they are replaceable. On the other hand we are closer to family and most have dropped by to welcome us. Most of our neighbors are animals something you would love...and the open space you could crank up your Gibson and no one would care. Please watch over mom, Genn, Erin, Bren, his command and all of our Military personnel.

Happy 2013 Ev - I really miss you.

Love, dad

20 January 2013 at 16:45:14

your dad

Hi Ev,
Jim Connolly your St Ignatius coach died today. Jim never did anything on a partial basis. His soul and the soul of his wife Sue could only have been made by God. Jim and Sue's life was 110% about the lives of others. It seems that God throws the mold away when he makes people like Jim and Sue. We need more people like Jim and Sue but maybe we don't deserve them here on earth. One of my favorite quotes truly applies to Jim (and you too) "What we do in life echoes in eternity"
Give Jim a big hug for us, watch over Sue and all of his remarkable kids.
Love, dad

29 August 2012 at 21:13:16


Hey Ev. First, I wanted to wish you a very belated happy birthday, my friend. Things this way have been moving right along. I've been keeping myself busy with work and school, but I wanted to take some time and give you a shout out. All the best, buddy.

26 August 2012 at 16:55:32

your dad

Belatedly, Happy Birthday Ev. We did celebrate your day with talking about some of your days here with us. As is custom we had your ice cream cake with the Hillegass family and their Brazilian exchange student. Jim Connaly yor running coach is quite ill at home with his all of his family. The 20 some foster kids are all arriving as well. Jim and his wife Sue are incredibly special people. They've worked so hard at making the world a better place for uncountable people. I was honored to get to know Jim and Sue I and couldn't be happier that you and Bren truly admired Jim. In some ways you and your brother remind me of Jim. As you said many times your aspiration was to raise a family,live on a beach, be a vet, a psychiatrist, run and play your guitar. Like Jim Connally a very busy man trying to make the world a better place. Even though your worldly aspirations were cut short, I do pray that you are doing what you want forever.
Love dad

24 August 2012 at 08:37:46


Hey e,

Wanted to say hi and let you know your youngest cousin is taking archery lessons. He really seems to enjoy it, has been doing it the last 6 weeks and wants to continue with it. I watch him from a distance and see how hard he is concentrating on the target. Reminds me of one of your pictures running on the track team, Gavin too has that same lok on his face as you did when running,

22 August 2012 at 18:59:00

Your dad

It's now 11 years and like the past 10 August 15's the sun was out, the sky was blue and those "puffy" clouds were in the sky - exactly like the day of your accident. I play August 15 2001 over in my head and often think I will wake up and this bad dream will be over. People say that in order to heal one needs to let go. I don't think our family DNA allows us to let go. I find myself thinking about your cousins who are now spread across the country and your friends from the 4 states that we have lived in. 20+ years ago, none of your cousins or friends mentioned how much they admired you. Now I hear the stories about the things you did many years ago. It makes me happy to know that they carried your memory in their hearts and mind. I know that you will never let your cousins and friends get to far away.
As always, please watch over Mom, Genn, Brendan and Erin.
Love, dad

15 August 2012 at 21:11:31

Kathie DegliObizzi

Dear Evan,
I cannot believe, that it has been 3 years...since I last visited your Website...
Ironically.... I recognize that it is close to the day that God called you home.
Many things have changed for the DegliObizzi's since last I spoke.
As I last posted.... Mark did go to Cali (California)as you called it...and he met a most wonderful girl, Christine "Steen" Battaglia. She was working the same Big Brother and Big Sister Camp as he. She camps, hikes, loves fishing....has calmed Mark's fear of animals...Her family is from Palos Heights, IL Very near you...
They were married on July 28th, reception on the Navy Pier. Your mom and dad were with us to celebrate. You were there also....
Sunflowers all around us, the weather the best day in Chicago 2012, the Cubs won in the bottom of the ninth, Mark sang "Wild Thing" to his Bride,Your mom and I danced, Fireworks.... The stars were all aligned...
You were missed and yet you were present...
As I was going through the pictures of your trip in Oregan, I noticed the one of your foot, big shoes to fill Ev.
We love you and are grateful for the time that we were given to be in your life. Your presence will long outlive the time we actually were gifted to spend with you. We love you.
Mrs DegliObizzi

13 August 2012 at 18:50:50

Kathie DegliObizzi

Catching up...

13 August 2012 at 18:27:58

Maura Clark

Evan, I woke up last night and you were on my mind which is a good thing since I know you are trying to help your family find their way back to our area to be with family. I knew you were up to something and sure enough I got the phone call this morning I was waiting for so I can help your parents. Thank you Evan. Please continue to keep all of us in your prayers as we always keep you in ours.
Aunt Maura

10 August 2012 at 06:39:06


Hi Evan
Just checking in with you, the clark 5 are enjoying a long holiday weekend in cape may. We are thinking of you, here at the beach! We miss you.

03 July 2012 at 15:15:59

Your dad

At this time of year many ask for gifts that deserve to be granted. One of your gift's was the ability to accept those that were and are different. So you gave us the ability to see that sometimes a gift is not receivintg a material possession but rather receiving the understanding of what it means to be different. I continue to wish that I remain close to you, Mom, Genn, Brendan and Erin. Merry Chrismas Ev - my words cannot begin to describe how much I miss you.
Love dad

24 December 2011 at 19:42:02



11 November 2011 at 17:12:30

Your Dad


You would be 26 today. I continue to dream about what you would be doing as an adult

I read a quote from St. Ignatius that exemplies how I think you lived your life: "Act as if everything depended on you; trust as if everything depended on God."

Please watch over Mom, Genn, Erin, Bren and his fellow Marines.


22 August 2011 at 20:53:50

clark5 of wallingford , pa

Hi Evan, we were in Cape May this past weekend and were thinking of you and your family. We know you are watching over us, especially your youngest cousin, Gavin who is always asking questions about family and how you are doing. Just when your Aunt Maura and I think he is just "talking" he will mention your name or make a comment and we stop in and say "where did that come from" So please continue to speak to him and watch over him, as he continues to grow and learn life's lessons. God bless you, your mom, dad, brendan, erin and Genn. we miss seeing you on the beach, but know you are watching over us.

16 August 2011 at 04:44:14


Hey Ev,

I thought that the 10th anniversary of your going to heaven would be a most difficult day. But it was a really good day - filled with purpose and busy-ness, love and remembrance. Over the years, I've thought long and hard about how you did things on earth and how your spirit still guides us,and, in doing that, I honestly think that I have it figured out.
You were un-conquerable, Ev. You studied hard, ran hard, worked hard, and then didn't think twice about passing on offers of outings with friends in order to help with your sister. Yet, there was no self-pity, no complaints. You still played with gusto, and really enjoyed your friendships and pasttimes. You not only handled what your young life had to bear, you found the joy in stepping up to the challenges that adversity threw to you. You tried to give of yourself along the way. You lived your life truly.
I think that some might think that we're an unlucky family, and your example helps me with that one. I'd like to think that we were lucky enough to have you with us for almost 16 years, and now, for always, in heaven. And that the adversity that our family has dealt with is a bit of a blessing. We don't take for granted the good times, we are appreciative of all of the blessings. And most importantly among those, the fact that we have the best family and friends who are like family, who have stood by us during the tough times and shared our joy during the good times. I think you always make sure that no matter which shoe is dropping, we are surrounded by love.
So, on your anniversary, I can only say thank you, Bubba. For setting an old soul example to me, to us; for being a really good son while you were here and always from heaven; for helping me to comprehend that love is love and transcends physical and earthly bonds; for filling our lives with some of the nicest souls on earth; for showing us how to stop and enjoy the moment; for being one of us; for giving us hints about the key to happiness in the face of adversity.
You're always in our hearts, Ev.

All love,

15 August 2011 at 22:32:46

Your Dad

It's now 10 years since your accident. If it weren't for your cousins and friends becoming adults then it would still seem like yesterday to me. We had a very special evening. Father Paulson; Mr Chandler; Mr & Mrs Hillegass , Joe, John, Mary, Sarah, Clare ; Mr & Mrs McCormick ; and Mr & Mrs Glaser all came to our house for a memorial Mass and dinner. It was a special evening, as everyone was in a reflective and thankful state. It was Perfect, just like you Father Paulson's homily about Mary's Assumption as a human being was a Mount Hood flashback for me - I ask myself why God allowed you to die and why that day. Many have told me that you are in the best of company and in time we will all know why.
Mom's rememberence of what you exemplied some of your traits: Friendship, tenacity, trust, acceptance, hope, peace, and help for those less fortunate. Mom's message was a heartfelt prayer that tugged at everyone's soul and conscious.

As Brendan mentioned, since March 2010 this has truly been a very busy time for him , Erin, Mom and Genn. Something tells me that you would not have it any other way. Your short time on earth and what you stood for continues to inspire me and help ease the loss. Goodness lasts forever - I just wish you were here to make earthly goodness even bigger for your family, friends and those you would eventually meet and touch.


15 August 2011 at 22:19:01

Rolando Garcia

Hey Ev. I was thinking about you, and I wanted to say hello. So much changes in so little time, but you, my friend, are ever constant. Thanks for that. Remember the time you said I laughed like a girl in front of the whole team? Yeah, thanks for that, too. :)

15 August 2011 at 18:32:00

Neil, Leigh, Lauren, Kaitlyn and Alexandra

Joe and Carol,

Evan was a gift to all of us in June 2001.

His stay at the beach that summer was very special. He was our nephew, but we got to know him as a person and fine young man. His late night peanut butter on toast sandwiches and mid morning runs downtown were Evan to us. Some of us started out the run with him, but it was not long until he needed to get to work and make his daily journey of pounding asphalt. I recall him not cutting loose, until we pleaded at least three times to be on his way. Sometimes he would say as he move ahead: "Are you OK Uncle Neil ?" He was a gentleman.

In the late morning or early evenings we could faintly hear the strings of his guitar playing a melodic tune from the third floor. It was not the music that made the day, it was the gaze of the younger cousins sitting in a circle sharing the moment with a cousin and terrific young man. He left his cousins with vivid memories of a kind and caring person.

It was unfortunate that you all could not be with that summer, but we are appreciative of the life he shared with us doing those Cape May days.

He left us with a memories of happiness.

God Bless all of you today and every day.


Neil, Leigh, Lauren, Kaitlyn and Alexandra
Joe and Carol,
Evan was a gift to all of us in June 2001.
His stay at the beach that summer was very special. He was our nephew, but we got to know him as a person and fine young man. His late night peanut butter on toast sandwiches and mid-morning runs downtown were Evan to us. Some of us started out the run with him, but it was not long until he needed to get to work and make his daily journey of pounding the asphalt. I recall him not cutting loose, until we pleaded at least three times to be on his way. Sometimes he would say as he move ahead: "Are you OK Uncle Neil ?" He was a gentleman.
In the late morning or early evenings, we could faintly hear the strings of his guitar playing a melodic tune from the third floor. It was not the music that made the day; it was the gaze of the younger cousins sitting in a circle sharing the moment with a cousin and terrific young man. He left his cousins with vivid memories of a kind and caring person.
It was unfortunate that you all could not be with that summer, but we are appreciative of the life he shared with us doing those Cape May days.
He left us with memories of happiness.
God Bless all of you today and every day.
Neil, Leigh, Lauren, Kaitlyn and Alexandra

15 August 2011 at 17:16:30

Brendan Clark

I wish I had more time to dedicate to you but it's been an unusual year to say the least. Sorry I can't be with the family today. Help out Mom and Dad and Genn if you can. Love you Ev.

14 August 2011 at 21:22:04

Paul Platt

I'm thinking of you this week Evan. A decade flies, but goes exceedingly slow at the same time.

14 August 2011 at 13:28:26

Your dad

Ev-Many of our family and friends remind us that you are watching over us. That must be the case because when I think back to 2010, the family challenge column increased but Brendan and Erin's May 22 wedding was by far the greatest reward for Mom , Genn and me; and you are now officially blessed with Erin as your big sister - I wish you could be here to see how happy Erin makes Brendan, Mom, Genn, and me. I would also love to watch you tease Erin, match wits, and ask her views about animals, sports, music, science and art. It would also be great to have you here so you can support Erin as Bren heads back to Quantico for the next 6 months.

It seems to Mom and me that the older we get the more there is to accomplish. The seemingly endless hours that you studied ,ran, and practiced your guitar playing continue to inspire me. Ev, sometimes my heart can ache so much that it feels like one is in a prison. But I remind myself at how busy you were living and that helps take the ache away. I suspect that you told yourself that you didn't have time to think about aches and pains.
Ev, please watch over Erin, Bren, Genn, and Mom.
Love Dad

07 January 2011 at 22:02:38

Joe Platt

Just stopping by. Its been a while. 25 is old. I'll be there shortly. I hope you are looking after your family. There may be some new Clark babies shortly thanks to your brother and his wife.

02 September 2010 at 21:01:53


Hi E, Happy b-day we were away the last couple of days in Hershey,pa. Your youngest cousin, Gavin is all boy 24/7. He does not stop for anything, has lots of energy and many questions. He just asked today on the merry go-round about God and where he is, I told him he is everywhere watching over you as well as his grandparents and his cousin,Evan. For some reason he was calling you Larry,(no idea why) sorry about that but we did laugh and he rambled on for the rest of the day and 3 hr ride home about his cousin. What can I say, Gavin is now understanding that you are with God and he has a cousin in heaven watching over him, we just ned to teach him your name,, that could take some time, he doesn't listen all the time.

25 August 2010 at 17:46:56

Your dad

Happy 25th Birthday Ev.
Your 25th turned out to be much more reflective and country proud than we had planned. In addition to Mom, Genn, and me , Mr & Mrs Hillegass, Mary, and Sarah came to dinner and we planned to sing Happy Birthday to you but then we were surprised, honored, and blessed with
Captains Katie Hillegass, Craig Buerstatte, and Joe Block all returning from Iraq stopped by for a visit and we all sang Happy Birthday to you.
We all know Katie, but once again your day made it easy for us to get to know Craig a little more, and we were introduced to another Joe.
Although I think they are on sensory overload, we did tell them a few things about you and I could really feel that they were listening. I know that they have all lost friends and classmates in battle
Ev, if possible, watch over these 3 Captains and all that serve to protect our country.

22 August 2010 at 22:28:36

Sarah Hillegass

Dear Evan,
Happy Birthday! Today Mary, Katie, my mom, my dad, Katie's boyfriend Craig, Katie's friend Joe, your mom, your dad, Gennie, and I celebrated your 25th birthday. We had shish kabobs, rice, and salad, and of course ice cream cake for dessert. We sang to you, and also to Mary because she turned 18 the day before. We talked about the day you were born. How your family always had ice cream. And lots more. And we missed you.
As I think back, I was 6 when you were born into heaven. The last time I remember with you was playing capture the flag at my house for a birthday. I'm pretty sure your team won because of your fast running. If only we could have more memories together after that. My next memory was at your wake. My family was going up and I remember talking to you. I wanted you to wake up and play capture the flag, and I wanted you and your family to be happy. Now I believe you are running. You are playing guitar. You are watching down on us. You are happy.
Now I am 15, a little taller and bigger than when I “saw” you last. I will be a sophomore at Hinsdale Central and I am on the girls’ frosh/soph cross-country team. I will most likely never be as great as you, but I try to keep getting better. At the end of my 3 miles, you always pop into my head; I do “see” you. I sprint so fast trying to catch you, to let your family “see” you once more. You know how much they miss you and can't wait to be with you again. We all miss you. And we all love you. Happy Birthday!
--Sarah Hillegass
P.S. I want to thank you and God for looking out for Katie while she was in Iraq. She will be up there one day, as we all will. But for now my family and I are so happy we get to see her and she's home. I miss you so much. Happy Birthday! And please tell my Godfather Walter that I love and miss him so much.

22 August 2010 at 21:04:55


Hi Evan,

It's been a heck of a year here on earth, Ev. Your sister proved to us that she's capable of more independence than we might have thought, and that, even in the face of her disabilities, she has more spunk than most other earthly beings. And your brother married a girl so perfect for him, it's a little obvious that the initial introduction was heaven sent. In our hearts, you were very much a part of that celebration. Pretty corny, I know, but with you and our family and friends all around, you could really feel the love:) It was, for us, the best day, and a wonderful answer to sorely needed and heartfelt joy. Thanks for letting us know that you're near for both the profound events, like this one, and the not so, too.

It's funny to think that you would be 25 years old today. Since the day you went to heaven, I had a feeling that, from then on, you knew it all, so to speak. It's hard to wrap a head around the fact that you're part of an ageless wisdom now, when we remember teaching you how to ride a bike. I guess it doesn't really matter, though. Your inspiration guides me every day, to try to keep moving and learning and enjoying the process that we know as life. Whether you're on earth or in heaven, we are blessed to have you in our lives for a quarter of a century. Seems like a lot of time for a son, but the blink of an eye for an angel.

Thanks, Bubba.
Love you always,
Mom xoxxoo

22 August 2010 at 12:11:04

Rolando I. Garcia

Today, nine years ago, Coach told us something he heard on the radio: boy from the Chicago area died after a hiking accident on Mt.Hood.

I still remember that moment very clearly, actually. I remember thinking, but I just saw him, I just saw him, I just saw him...

Looking back, I don't think I really ever stopped seeing you Ev. Somehow you always pop up! In conversation, in a dream, or just in a passing thought.

I prefer to think of these moments as visits, really. You, I think more than any one else possibly could, are there when I need a friend the most, those dark nights of the soul. To be honest, sometimes I forget you're there! I know that sounds stupid. It's hard to miss you when you did/do come around like when you told me that random squirrel joke at track practice or when you wore that ratty tie die t-shirt to practice over and over again. (My God, I think back, and I wonder if you ever washed that thing!)

You're a hard one to miss, kid, in all senses of that word. You never made an entrance, but everyone knew you were there. And it's heard to miss you, miss you. I guess I eventually figured you never left! I do wish you could talk back though. Sometimes I feel like an idiot talking to myself here! Then again, I still watch Disney movies and still tend to laugh like a girl (as you so tactfully pointed out one day: "Dude, you just laughed like a girl.") so maybe I'm just nuts. Still, God really doesn't talk back either.

Either way, buddy, I still think about you, I haven't forgotten you, and I love you. Now can you help motivate me to get back running? My feet don't get wet anymore when I take a shower. :)

16 August 2010 at 21:40:35


Thank you to everyone that has left a note on this website.

Lots of you we don't know , and Evan never met .... one of Ev's strengths was bringing people together.
I guess this website is an extension of Ev's belief and conviction that everyone can get along.
Evan had a sixth sense about how to assemble complete strangers (athletes, nerds, different races and religions, schemers, etc.) and forge a good time.
Evan lived in the moment and would try to create a seed for another good meeting - even if he could not make the next get together, he would hear about it and that was almost as good as being with his new found friends. When I think back, he showed me that our differences are the foundations for future friendship.

At this time 9 years ago Brendan and I were waiting for the Oregon Air National Guard to airlift Ev off Mt Hood.
It's an awful, helpless memory that is somewhat relieved by the thoughts of Evan building the bridges of friendship that have lasted for the past 9 years.

I am certain that the world would be a better place if Ev were here.

(For those of you that have left kind notes, I hope that you don't mind that we call you our friend - Thank you).

15 August 2010 at 19:01:21


We don't know each other as we have never met, but I came across this wonderful tribute site and was moved by all the kind words and all the friends and family you have. It's hard to know why things happen, but I'm sure your family and friends take great comfort knowing you are up in heaven watching over them.

30 December 2009 at 09:37:49

The Floods

Hi Ev,

Sorry that I am late in wishing you a happy birthday from the four J's. It's hard to believe that you would have been 24 this year! I talk to your mom a lot and I am always in awe of her strength and positive attitude. I am sure you are always with her, your dad, Brendan and Gennie. Keep them safe - tell Uncle Eddie hi from us - I am sure he is with you. Love to everyone.

01 September 2009 at 15:48:56


Hi Big E, Happy Belated Birthday, Maura did remember last week, my apologies for responding late, what a great friend you have from the USMC, very cool what he did honoring you with a flag from the White House.

23 August 2009 at 05:13:17

Your Dad

Happy 24th Birthday Ev !
And thank you for being our son, brother, and friend who watches over us and keeps us safe. Tonight August 22, 2009, a best friend of yours, Brendan Ahern (USMC) paid a special heart felt tribute to you with a profound and honorable birthday gift - a USA flag that has flown at the White House and at USMC memorials. We will cherish this gift and your good friend forever.
Mom, Genn , Brendan and I are glad that
Brendan Ahern is home, safe, and starting the next chapter of his life.

Semper Fidelis Ev.
Love Dad

22 August 2009 at 22:21:59

clark 5

Hi Evan, We just returned from the beach, the girls and Gavin again were in the Big Atlantic enjoying the summer surf. Both Maura and I were thinking of you today watching your 3 cousins jumping around in the waves on this beauttful day in Cape May and thinking of this picture of you on your website.
I know you are taking good care of you Mom, Dad, Brother and Sister, and all of use, we miss you.
clark 5

15 August 2009 at 15:14:35


Hi Ev,

As I was lighting your candle at the cemetery, I was thinking about how this year is one of '8's - you were born to us in the 8th month, born to heaven in the 8th month, and it's been 8 years since your passing. I was thinking about how much I've learned from you since then, and how much we've grown with the help of countless friends and family. In keeping with the '8's, I thought that I'd enumerate 8 traits of yours that I've been trying to emulate. I can't say that I do as well as you, probably never will. But the example you set will always guide me, and hopefully, others, too:)
1) honesty, 2) charity, 3) humor, 4) earnestness, 5) tolerance, 6) tenacity, 7) gusto, 8) love

Thanks for being always near, Bubba.
Always, love,

15 August 2009 at 11:48:09

Your Dad

Ev, it's now 2922 days since your Mount Hood accident. I keep replaying our last conversation and my last earthly picture of you. It was a picture perfect day for a hike, we were finishing up lunch when you came up to me and asked if you and Bren could go down the hill and look around. I asked you if you wanted my brownie because they were your favorite dessert and you said " I am on vacation , why not". You finished the brownie, and jogged down the hill with Bren while I watched with the sun above our heads surrounded by the bright blue sky... I thought how lucky I am be part of our two boys having a really great time. Since you could crawl , you and Bren have always explored nature and our time on Mt. Hood seemed like another replay of your drive to explore nature. Out of the blue, our world turned upside down. As often as I replay this picture..... I ask God WHY? It's a haunting question that I pray that no parent should ever have to ask.

15 August 2009 at 10:27:21

Joe Platt

Just listening to some New Order "ICB." I'll be in Chicago this week. I think I'll try to stop by. You've missed some very good and bad times.

13 August 2009 at 22:28:36

Ife Ashabo

He sounded like an amazing person. I think it's great that you did something like this for your brother. Very inspiring, man.


09 July 2009 at 10:52:20

Kathie DegliObizzi

Dear Evan, Having a quiet, "get caught up kind of day". Thought I'd check in. Mark and Mr Deg are on a weekend Canoe trip with a group that goes every year. This is their first excursion. With 2 weeks vacation, it has always been hard for them to allocate time away together. You, Brendan and your dad were always inspiration to us. Reminding us of the importance of "guy" time.
Congratulations to Brendan. He will make a great partner.
Since last time, although you already know :), thought I'd update everyone. Mark is starting Graduate school in Sept at UD. They have a "School Psychologist" degree. He will oversee school nurses, students etc.. with special needs, meds, issues etc. We asked him to find a career that would make him happy. Park Ranger, was his real love, but the pay was just not ample. He said he would be happy having "off summers". This career pays very well, and he will have off summer to do his thing. EX: He leaves June 3rd for the summer to go to California in the Mountains. He will be a camp director, taking out weekly groups of inner city kids on "survivor excursions". Right up his alley, huh? Please watch over him for us... He still sleeps with his guitar and that is a comfort.
Lauren did get her RN and is a nurse in the Emergency Room at Christiana Hospital. She bought her first house in December and is very happy.
Dianna made it through 2 yrs at UD but is transferring this Sept. It's just to tough for her there. She has found her calling in Flowers.
Plans on becoming a successful, high rolling Florist. It surprisingly does fit her to a tee. We are thinking of you and your loving family and look for you everwhere.
Luv U Evan Clark, Mrs Deg

25 April 2009 at 10:38:40

Nick Christou

Hi Ev,

It seems like so much less than eight years ago that you were still here. At first I used to feel cheated that I only got to know you for such a short time. But you are one of the best people I've met and I've realized that I'm just lucky that I did meet you and become your friend. These days I feel sore that you were cheated out of so many good years. Somehow, I think you're a better sport about it. You are an inspiration. There aren't many more people I could have known for just that one young year and say with such certainty, he'll live a great life.

Love Always,


20 April 2009 at 08:25:13

Your Dad

Your big brother Brendan got engaged today to Erin. You will get a new big sister who makes Brendan an even better brother, son and friend.
One of your favorite movies , "Oh Brother, Where Art Thou" ? was on Cable this past week.... we all knew Erin was "the one" for Bren. The timing of this movie makes us wonder if you didn't ask him what are you waiting for ?

(I can remember watching this movie with you wondering why you liked this movie so much)
Some say this movie symbolizes the the Greek epic "The Odyssey" - I don't know about that.
I do know that your interests , friends and passions taught me that life is an odyssey.


05 April 2009 at 20:14:59


Coool site, greate design!

18 February 2009 at 00:42:48

Brian Paulson, S.J.

Dear Clark 5,

My thoughts and prayers are with you all as we turn the page on 2008 and ring in 2009. It's great to see Evan's picture, "forever young," above. Watch over us all, Evan!

Brian Paulson, S.J.

31 December 2008 at 11:37:53


Merry Christmas Evan,


28 December 2008 at 15:06:11

Joe P.

Just stopping by the site. Time goes fast.

01 December 2008 at 14:31:11

the Floods

Hi Ev,

Really can't believe that 7 years have passed and you would be 23 years old! I am looking up at your picture with Jillian that last time we saw you - you are sitting at the kitchen table and Jillian is behind you pulling your lips apart trying to make you smile because you wouldn't (hated your braces!). It's tucked in the frame of our wedding picture and I look at it every day. I don't have your mom's gift but when I am jogging and it's not going well, I always ask you to give me a push! I also think about how Uncle Eddie was so tired in the end but still kept going and then it's not so hard. Love to all the Clarks - say hi and give a big hug to Uncle Eddie for me. You are both missed and loved so much!!

01 September 2008 at 11:21:54


Hi E,
Good Morning from Scaranton, Pa.
The girls just started taking piano lessons and I was telling them that in your bedroom you have sheet music on your ceiling above your bed, so you could practice even while falling alseep. Of course they want to do the same, so this week, I will put over their beds copies of music notes just like their cousin Evan...,

Happy Birthday,


24 August 2008 at 04:51:53


Happy 23rd Birthday Ev. Not being here, makes my thoughts of the day you were born even more special.
Love dad

22 August 2008 at 13:56:55


Thinking about Evan today even more than usual on what would have been his 23rd birthday. You will never be forgotten. We talk about you often and know you're watching over us.

22 August 2008 at 07:07:44


I want to apologize to anyone who had problems signing the guestbook recently. This has been corrected. Please let me know if you need any help re-adding a missed entry.

19 August 2008 at 18:38:16


Well Ev it's now 7 years since that horrible fateful day on Mount Hood. What I look forward to is watching Mom and Gennie sleep. I know Mom is having happy Evan dreams; and Gennie looks so much like you when you were sleeping it's almost like you are here.
Today Mom and I went to your grave for an Evan picnic - - we talked about you the entire time. Mom asked me what I think of when I think of you and how do I think about you in the future ? Mostly I dwell on past memories because I know those things. I pray to the same God that I prayed to on Mount Hood on August 15,2001, and I ask that God how I can learn to understand where you are now. Mom already has this gift - she knows that you are happily in "HEvan" and that you are also here on earth with us. I hope that I learn to feel and see you tomorrow like I could 7 years ago.
For now my mourning is helped by watching Mom and Gennie asleep in the morning ....all the while marvelling as Brendan becomes our family morning sun.

15 August 2008 at 18:33:41

Carol Clark

Like I always feel from you, Ev, "I had to go, but I never left you." I am
grateful that if you can't be with us, you exist in the most wondrous place.
Thank you for always being close, for all of the strength and guidance that
you send each day, and for surrounding us with wonderful friends that give us
constant support. Seven years - a lifetime, a heartbeat. Love you always,

15 August 2008 at 10:18:19

Cathy P.

Hey Evan in Heaven,
I've been thinking about you and your family alot. You're family is very special to me and I love them to pieces. Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love, Cathy
P.S. Emmett says HI

06 January 2008 at 02:55:58


Merry Christmas and Happy 2008 New Year Ev.
Every day I look at this website and I try and think of something inspirational or profound to write about.....or better yet to read some remarks that family or friends have wrtten. I think I've realized that when one's heart and mind are torn apart by the loss of a son (and brother) that it's hard to find the good thoughts or right words to write about. In 2007 , what I have come to realize is that the older Gennie gets the more I see you in her. Most importantly though, I think that despite all of Genn's disabilities she sees you more than anyone else and that helps put things back together again.
Love ,

01 January 2008 at 23:50:21


Just looking at the website tonight, noticed that Layne Staley had
the same birthday, while i was listening to some music, and
texting Brendan online coincidentally, Probably wasn't the best
role model but a good musician, I wonder if you liked his band?
Beside the point, just made me think of you.

03 December 2007 at 06:06:32


Evan (and Clarks),

Time goes fast in some ways and slow in others. I'm just sitting by myself in the office now, my thoughts turned to you so I thought I would check in and say hello. A lot has happened in 6 years, it seems like the world and the country did a major 180 shortly after you left and things have been going that way ever since. It's strange to think that you have experienced all this from a different place, I'm sure you have a better view of the whole picture than I do, so please help me and everyone that you knew (and know) along the way. Take care,


25 August 2007 at 23:50:55


As I started to write this note I realized that although it seems like yesterday to me that it's actually 6 years to the minute since your accident.
Accidents are funny things. Often,most people associate and remember accidents that are bad. Some accidents can have good results - I met Mom by accident and that was and is the best accident that I could ever have and realize. Maybe that's why some people say that "it's no accident" when a good thing happens.
Well your big brother graduated from the Marine Corp OCS at Quantico and "it was no accident" that he attributes this to you. The two of you have always exemplified the "Semper Fidelis" phrase.
I wish you were here in person to shake Brendan's hand and give him a hug. Mom , Genn , me and Erin will have to take care of the earthly stuff - you watch over Bren as he travels life's road.
Love , Dad
PS. As you run around in Hevan can you ask some of your neighbors if they might pitch in and help the world become a more peaceful place ? Thanks Ev.

15 August 2007 at 22:39:11


Hi Ev,
We just spent the weekend with all of your family, for happy get togethers. You were on everyone's mind, there were stories about you and a general sharing of memories. You didn't have as many days as the rest of us on earth, but the impact of the days that you did have will rest with all of your friends and family forever. I know that you don't want us to be sad while we're here,and for that reason, I count the blessings of having had you for the time we had, and try to heed the lessons we all learned from your brief but remarkable life. Thanks for being near always, we are all listening.
Always love,
Mom, Dad, Brendan and Gennie xoxox
ps chocolate milkshakes all around tonight, in your honor:)

15 August 2007 at 20:34:55

jim clark

Maura and I were thinking of you tonight during dinner as we watched your youngest cousin Gavin being a typical two year old. We were thinking of how old you are and how quickly the anniversary of your accident is approaching. We just marvel at the strength of your parents and your brother and sister. We just looked at each other and wondered if we would be able to do the same. We had ice cream near the arcade this weekend. It was so nice to remember the summer you came to Cape May by yourself and how kind you were to Maggie while she got an ice cream at the same place. It's such a clear memory.

31 July 2007 at 22:52:01


As you know , today your big brother is off to Quantico - - the Marine Corp OCS. It's Bren's first step toward his JAG aspirations. Although you have not been physically here with Bren , I do believe that he is partly pushing and testing himself because of you - after all you were already his track match but 2 yrs younger, and your grades were testing him too. Those were good times.
Our daily pain of missing you is now compounded by the fear of your big brother's military unknowns. Our pride in you and Brendan helps remove our pain and fears. I suspect that you might say something like this " not only would the world be a better place if everyone watched the Simpsons ,'but if we all showed more pride in our fellow human beings the world would be more peaceful' ".
Watch over Bren . SEMPER FIDELIS.
Love Dad

02 June 2007 at 23:33:46

Mrs. DegliObizzi

Dear Evan, Mark forwarded your site to me ages ago. I knew one day I'd find the right moment to drop a line. You are in our thoughts, always. We all have so many wonderful memories of our time spent together with you and your family. Mark will graduate soon and head to graduate school. He is leaning towards law school but may choose Psychology instead. You know how you and he were always trying to figure out how things worked? He still plays guitar and writes awesome music. His biggest enjoyment is his time spent outdoors. You would be proud of him as he was of you. Lauren will be a senior in Nursing and as always loves taking care of others. Dianna is heading to U of DE to study communications. She still cracks us up. Mr Deg and I keep the fort down and relish our time spent together as a family. We pray to you and know you hear us. Keep smiling down on your loved ones here on earth. Loving you..Mrs Deg

10 May 2007 at 15:54:12

Rolando Garcia

You popped into my head recently. I figured I'd say hello.

07 March 2007 at 05:30:20

Hannah Clark

I've just been thinking about you a lot lately. I have the picture of you running on my mirror, so in the morning when I'm getting ready, I think good thoughts for your mom and dad, and Brendan and Gennie. But the times I think of you and miss you the most are when I'm running...I always think to myself, "I'll run a little bit further for Ev."
Love always,

09 January 2007 at 06:11:18

Your Dad

It is now our Fifth Christmas without you.
If you could have one gift what would it be ?
If I could have one gift it would be to know that you are OK.

26 December 2006 at 05:14:05

Linda Lokes

I work with Jim Clark. I feel like I kmow Evan thru Jimmy. He is every parent's dream child. I undersatand he was talented in many diverse areas and a wonderful caring son and brother. Evan is the same age as my oldest son, Sean. We hike and camp all of the time. Every time we spend time out on the trails, I think of Evan. May God hold him in the palm of his hand. God Bless.

21 December 2006 at 02:50:50


You don't know me. I friends with Jim. He told me the story about Evan. I'm sorry for your loss.
My family and I will keep Evan and your family in our prayers and thoughts. I know that this may be a tough time of the year for you and your family.
I know the pain must be great. I lost a son at birth. He'd be 17 now. I think of him every day.
I pray to him also. He's our Guardian Angel.
Maybe my Freddy and Evan are buddies in heaven.
I'd like to think so. Just wanted to drop a line.
Stay strong.
God Bless

20 December 2006 at 20:33:25


Hi Evan:
We missed you at dinner the other night. No, I didn't bring your favorite potatoes, I thought it might make your parents sad. And, this is a sad time of the year anyway. But, I bet you are happy, how could you not be when you are living in Heaven?
Please ask God to look after those of us here on earth, will you? And will you especially ask Him to watch over your good friend Brendan while he is in Iraq? Thanks Evan for doing that for me.
Meanwhile, we are being good friends to each other on earth, just like you were when you were here.
I miss you.
Love always

18 December 2006 at 21:00:26

peter murakami

Years pass here but you'll always be in my thoughts, Evan. I told you you had to be better than me. I think you succeeded.

16 December 2006 at 17:31:20

your Dad

August 22nd 11:40pm CST - Ev your webmaster needs to adjust the time and day - - Bren that would be you. Ev, as I write this note to you and Bren it reminds me of the best of times - the times that you were with us, the times that that we could hold you in our arms .......
Dear Ev,
Today is your 21st Birthday. We cannot believe that you are not here to hear us sing to you, to hug you, to shake your hand, to toast you good health , good frienships , good fortune, and to thank you for being a good son and a great brother.
Twenty one is a look back / look forward age.
It's the time when resposibility begins to seize your dreams.
It's a time when you unknowingly make your parent's smile and realize that we did a good job raising you.

It's the time that your older brother realizes he is not so old anymore - now an even more profound "bond of brother's" is upon you.

It's a time that you hug your not so little sister and realize that you are more of her guardian and life guide rather than her constant playmate, teaser and baby sitter.

Because you are not here , one can have dreams for you that always work out ....that's a bit difficult though because 5 years and 7 days ago I (we) woke up , looked out the window and the son was gone.

How does one dream without the son ?
Your Mom , Gennie, Bren, and me will keep trying to dream about you - - not unlike the countless hours of your running and guitar trying.
Happy 21st Bithday Ev !
PS. This may seem brash or odd but I do think there is no harm in writing or asking ....Please ask God for a sustained world peace - - there are way too many people dying and suffering - Mom would tell me that you are really busy ""Hevan welcoming". Ask God to let kids like you to grow old with their parents.
Thank you and love always,

23 August 2006 at 05:14:43


Sweet Ev
I feel like I start everything with "it's hard to believe...", but it truly is hard to believe that you would be 21 today. So many daily events in your life on earth are so fresh in my mind still. How great it would've been to see you grow, and witness your life's triumphs. I guess you, and the others that we love so in heaven, have already achieved the greatest triumph. Selfishly, your Dad and brother and sister and I (and I imagine many more people:) just want to give you a hug. For lack of a gift profound enough to give to an angel, we send our eternal love today, as we do every minute of every day. (And Dad's been playing the old rock pretty loudly, I'm sure in your honor, though I keep reminding him that you can hear it softly, too:)
I have to paraphrase, but there's a lovely saying on one of the stones at Bronswood, something like "I'm too fond of the stars to be afraid of the night." Happy Birthday, Evan, we'll look for you in the starry night.
Love always,
Mom and Dad, Brendan and Gennie

23 August 2006 at 04:27:32


Happy Birthday, was just thinking of you as I heard some Neil Young on the radio


maggie/maeve.gavin 2MG

22 August 2006 at 00:13:03

Aunt Janet (and the 3 other J's)

Hey Ev,

I'm at work so I'm not going to write much right now - this is harder to do than I thought it would be - too many memories. Just wanted to say we love you and miss you and Uncle Ed more than you know!! Please make sure you tell Uncle Ed that. To Carol, Joe, Brendan and Gennie, we love you very much and you are in our hearts - today especially!

All Our Love, Jim, Janet, Jillian and Jimmy

15 August 2006 at 14:49:02

Evan,Carol, Gennie, Brendan,Joe

On June 15,2006 Mom's brother - your Uncle Ed Grosik has decided to hang out with you - but as Mom would say "you already knew that".
Also on June 15 I got a text message from "JWR" entitled : "Angels don't leave footprints".
Our earthly angel has not made it possible for me to read this article - so I started to wonder how I would write thoughts to this title about Uncle Ed for Mom.
Here goes:
People leave impressions with their image - that image is their footprint.

Ed your big brother, has a powerful and goodness image ~ Look at his picture when he is SMILING - you can see immense happy energy radiating from his entire body and soul - it's akin to lightning.

His LAUGHTER is a rolling thunder - you can hear him laugh above hundreds of people a crowded wedding reception, at an Eagles game, house party and I am certain at work.

A Smile and Laughter are profound and rare images.
Pick up any newspaper, periodical , even the great works of art and you notice few pictures of happiness.

A Smile and Laughter come from the depth's of one's being.

What makes Ed so happy?

I would like to think that angels make him happy.

Ed knows he's a loving Husband, Father, Son , and Brother. He knows he is caring, intelligent, hard working, trustworthy, honorable, respectful, dutiful, competitive, fair, and good looking ...(even when he's not in his convertible).

Many of these attributes are found in others but what happens when one person is blessed with so many of these traits?

One comes to the realization that a smile crystalizes all of these traits .....Look at Ed's Smile.

We trusted Ed to take care of our earthly angel even before we spoke about his role. How could both of us have this Ed confidence ?
It's Ed's whole being - his image.

I would say that Ed is an angel invisible to himself but quite obvious to those who know him.

Carol you have many gifts that inspire us ~ however your special blessing is your closeness to angels and Ev that's where you come in.

Gennie, Bren, me, our family , friends and even those we have yet to meet will rely on you and Ev to be our Angel Messengers.
Thank you.
Love, Joe, Dad ,aka "Cad"

19 June 2006 at 01:30:07


Ev, this week you welcomed my brother, your Uncle Ed. I was thinking about all that you had in common with him: your mutual love of classic rock, muscle cars, and running, but moreover, the similarities in your personalities. Both of you given to helping whoever needed assistance whenever, the graceful acceptance of difficult circumstances, the ability to put people at ease with a prank or joke, putting your all into living life. My son and my brother, two of the most decent people put on earth. Proof again that only the good die young. You are both forever in our hearts.
Love always,
mom xoxox

19 June 2006 at 00:33:00


Clarks of Chicago,
I love the music piece. Classic. I can hear Evan playing it. I am just checking in and saying hello to angels and earthlings. You got to run when you can and sit and stare at the rocks from time to time as well. In Japan, some say if you stare at rocks they will grow. I never had that much sake but i take the point that a little meditation time lets you see pattterns and formations. Also makes you realize a stone is more permanent than anyone of us. I like rock gardens. Back to the run.

rock fisherman

23 April 2006 at 02:10:11

Joe Platt

I hope everyone one is doing well. I was watching T.V. and saw
Rush Hour the first one on t.v. I saw the second one with Evan in
the theater, what a terrible movie! Oh well, it was alright, just a
thought or a memory reminded me of high school and Evan.
Take care everyone.

03 February 2006 at 16:09:54

Ev's Family

Once upon a time.....
We could see the blue skies when we looked into your eyes.
Once upon a time....
We could see you run with your back to the sun.
Once upon a time...
We could help you comb your hair , we could see your breath in the cold day's air.
Once upon a time..
We could hold you in our arms, and protect you from nature's harms.
Once upon a time.
We could hear you laugh, we could hear you pray on a once upon a time Christmas Day .
Merry Christmas Ev.
Mom,Bren,Genn,and Dad

26 December 2005 at 04:45:23



Merry Christmas, to you and your family

21 December 2005 at 22:11:26

Ev's Dad


Give your "Pop Pop", my Dad a special hug from all of us today. In the book, "The Year of Magical Thinking" the author references a quote that she believes was witten by ee cummings which I find quite haunting ~ the quote is this:
"When you left the Stars began to Fade".
I don't know about fate but I do know that "Starry Mights" is your favorite painting and I do know your "Pop Pop" like to sign his name in small letters "easy ed".
I would like to think that mr cummings is an easy ed too.

12 November 2005 at 01:34:45

Uncle Jim, Aunt Janet, Jillian and Jimmy

Hi Ev,
We think of you so often - as I jog, I think of you a lot. I read the guestbook and so many beautiful things are written. I'm sorry I'm not that eloquent. Know that we love you a lot and you can come visit us anytime you want! Always, the JF's

04 November 2005 at 20:36:48


Hi, Ev. Just wanted to let you know that I miss you terribly. Things haven't exactly been working out the past few months and now that I'm back at school I am having a little harder time hoping for the best. In a lot of ways I wish you were here right with me, sharing my room, running with me on those lonely days, and giving me advice about school and girls. I do know you are here, and I do know that you listen when I talk. Can you possibly tell God that I am not expecting things to get easier, I just would like a little strength to keep living the day to day. I know you know how I feel, and the struggles I am facing. I just wish I were as brave as you. I miss you a lot and love you always.

03 September 2005 at 18:40:39


Hi Ev
Each year now, I try to figure out what lessons are learned from the experience of your passing on to heaven. Last year, it was to learn to ask for help from family and friends, so as not to fall into the abyss of sorrow. To appreciate what we have in form of loving relationships. This year, I think that the lesson for me might be to remember that we just won't understand all these mysteries until we join you in heaven. And to know that a parent's job is to love and nurture. Then listen to and watch your kids, because they teach you everything you'll ever need to know. On earth, or from heaven:)
Your dad always has good quotes on special days, he puts me to shame. Today,I can think of so many to put to work here. Because eternal life is all about love, I can think of the Corinthians, "Love... bears all things, believes all things, endures all things. Love never ends." And another, in keeping with your exuberant spirit, and the way you lived life here, with us: "Even in the dark, you have the power to whistle." We'll try to keep in mind the optimism with which you carried yourself here, and be inspired to the same, especially today.
Love you always, Ev.

15 August 2005 at 21:33:00

Your Dad

Ev - Today is 4 years since that horrible day on Mount Hood. Every day your Mom , Bren , Genn and me try to come up witha reason as to how we can make sense out of your accident. I do not think I will ever understand until I see you again.Until then our souls and shadows will keep running with you forever .....
As you know Saint Paul wrote :
"Do you not know that the runners in the stadium all run in the race, but only one wins the prize?

Run so as to win.

Every athlete exercises discipline in every way. They do it to win a perishable crown, but we an imperishable one.

Thus I do not run aimlessly; I do not fight as if I were shadowboxing.

No, I drive my body and train it, for fear that, after having preached to others, I myself should be disqualified" Corinthians 9

Love ,
Mom , Bren , Gennie, Dad,
bob,wex,penny ,zip ,gib

15 August 2005 at 15:03:25



It won't be long now until we have the baby in July. The girls are looking forward to having a brother in the house. Not sure why I am telling you this, but I was thinking about you and just wanted to share our excitmeent w/ you. Still working on a name for the baby.


20 May 2005 at 22:26:07

Paul Platt

Thanks for running with me in more ways than one.

06 May 2005 at 03:06:46

Ev's Dad

Ev - I wish I could write something as profound as below. I suppose you can already do this.
Love, Mom , Genn, Bren, and Dad.


I am a humble artist
moulding my earthly clod,
adding my labour to nature's,
simply assisting God.

Not that my effort is needed;
yet somehow, I understand,
my maker has willed it that I too should have
unmoulded clay in my hand.
- - by Piet Hein , from "GROOKS"

02 February 2005 at 23:13:01

Ev's Dad

Merry Christmas Ev.
Your family, and friends want to thank you for the gifts you gave them throughout 2004. Often these gifts were a memory of your smile, perhaps something you said , then again a reflection brought on by an academic exercise , a track practice , a note of music , even a snow flake.
I will never understand why you had to leave us when you did , and I continue to wonder how your family and friends hear and see you.
I am proud to be your Dad yesterday, today, and tomorrow. I look forward to the chance to give you a Dad's thank you hug.
In the mean time the I'll relish the hugs from Mom, Bren ,Genn and the Hillegass'.
Love ,

26 December 2004 at 05:15:29

Grant Hummer

I remember Evan telling me once, as we had our daily 47 minute lunch break, that the only thing that matters in school is working hard. Grades don't matter, teachers don't matter, the only thing that matters is working hard and doing the best you can. Evan's life, as I saw it, was defined by working hard; he worked harder than anybody else I knew on the Track and Cross Country teams, and worked harder than anybody I knew in school. Evan served as an inspiration for me throughout school, and during those long nights where I just felt like giving up and giving in, Evan's memory was there to goad me along. Evan was a unique human being, and I can honestly say that I've never met anybody in my 19 years who had as much sheer grit as he did. As Leonardo da Vinci said, "As a well-spent day brings happy sleep, so life well used brings happy death." I believe that in Evan's short time, he glowed brighter than any other soul in Ignatius. He used the most of what he had, and I can almost feel him looking down at me right now, smiling as I write this. Thanks for everything, Evan.

17 December 2004 at 07:06:08

Ev's Dad

"Ev was made in Heaven ;
(h)Evan's in the World"
Love, Mom , Bren, Genn, wex, bob, penny, zip, gib and Dad.

14 December 2004 at 22:40:18

Evan's Dad

As I logged on to my PC today the quote of the day was: "Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens"
- - Jimi Hendrix

26 October 2004 at 13:59:30

Evan's mom

"I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I, and you are you, Whatever we were to each other, that we still are...I am but waiting for you, for an interval, Somewhere very near, Just around the corner. All is well." Henry Scott Holland
Thank you for being with all of us, Ev, your family and friends. Such a strange dichotomy of life, to miss you so dearly, yet know you are here.
Five always, Love always,
Mom, Dad, Bren and Gen xoxox

15 August 2004 at 19:00:59

Jim, Janet, Jillian & Jimmy

All our love, thoughts and prayers are with you always.

15 August 2004 at 14:41:28

jim and maura

Ev, Over the last seveal nights at dinner , Maggie has been offering up her version of grace before our meal and she has been mentioning your name. Thanks for speaking to us through our little girl. We will always have a good thought for you.


11 August 2004 at 00:42:29

Joe Clark - Ev's Dad

I read a quote today by Vincent van Gogh :
"I am not an adventurer by choice but by fate" .
How true this is for all of us that miss you all yesterdays and todays.
Love ,
Mom , Gennie, Bren , and Dad

14 July 2004 at 20:18:36

Janet Flood

Hi Ev,
Thinking of you as we always do. Graduation time! You are always in our hearts and I look to you for guidance a lot. Love you and your family always.

Aunt Janet, Uncle Jim, Jillian & Jimmy

06 June 2004 at 20:45:38

"From Here To Eternity's Gates"

Evan ,
the sky is bluest of blues this morning -
it reminds me of looking into your eyes, the clouds your smile , the wind your desire, the sun your soul , the stars your potential.
you brought peace to this world ,
from "hevan" help us with bringing peace to
to our world always.
love you forever,
starry night

05 June 2004 at 20:40:06


Hi Bubba
Today we'll be with your friends, knowing full well that you are with them, too. I know that head nod smile of yours that I see everyday in my mind's eye will be present as you watch all of their graduation festivities:) We'll be there, too, as we acknowledge the hopeful promise of your friends' futures, and affirm the hopeful promise that you and your other friends already have in heaven. How funny to ponder at the time of high school graduation, Ev, that we have a son who really does know it all now:) We keep the faith because of you. Thanks for your everlasting help, Bubba. You are always in my heart, Mom. (and all)

05 June 2004 at 15:51:08

joe clark (ev's dad)

Ev, Today you graduate from Saint Ignatius HS.
You loved your music and I am sure we would be listening to some of the songs off your favorites list. Two titles are particularly relevant
today : "Magic Carpet Ride" (Steppenwolf) and
"Hey Hey What Can I Do" (Zepplin). Not to worry you can blast your tunes today - in celebration I will too. Congratulaions Ev. Love always Dad.

05 June 2004 at 14:55:38

Rolando Garcia

A life lived is one filled with friends, love...
walking the halls to an empty sound
a soul no longer there
yet everywhere at once
whispers of excitements long past
of laughing tears kissing blazened cheeks
peace done shattered
then mended by time's steady hand
stitching still pressed against a once
seamless silk
now smiling in heaven
in ecstasy
leaving behind tattered fringes
perceived and true
transcending mortality into peace
yet leaving glistening memories
leaving family and friends
for a divine bosom
shattered pieces
that when brought together
create a shining whole
different pieces
different memories
different words
...and good times.

25 May 2004 at 04:33:29

Margaret Platt

Dear Evan,
THe prayers of my friends, family, and myself are ALL dedicated to you and your GREAT famliy.You and your family are ther best example for the WHOLE world to see. My thoughts are with you always, and forever.
Margaret Platt

25 May 2004 at 02:26:59

Molly Platt

I never have met Evan myself but I know he was a great kid. I remember when Evan was at our house and he was playing the guitar. Wow! was he good. I just want the Clark family to know that i am thinking of you and Evan.~ Molly ~

25 May 2004 at 02:07:16

Andrew Platt

My brother was good friends with Evan. I myself never new him that well but, whenever he was over he'd always teach me somthing on the guitar. He always nice about things. He was just funny, intellegent, and just a wellrounded kid. We'll all miss him

25 May 2004 at 01:00:15

jim clark

Hey Brendan, Just dropping you a quick note to let you know I thought of Evan today through a Pearl Jam song. I know he enjoyed music and throughout the day I hear diffeent songs on the radio that remind me of him. I also read a poem in the paper from Rudyard Kipling.

21 May 2004 at 21:23:04


You're a great brother and a very emotionally intelligent person. If you ever need any sort of help, dont hesitate to contact me. On behalf of the GE211 class,

Best of luck,


01 May 2004 at 00:33:19

Richard Evan Clark

This site is cool. I think its wonderful that you have a memorial website.

24 March 2004 at 15:25:36

Rolando Garcia

"Life is not weighed in fortunes or successes. Life is measured in the amount of love on gives and is given. Life is measured by the number of lives touched by one's smile. Life is measured by the gratitude of hearts." Knowing this I would say Evan's life was / is abounding in all of these. My only aspiration is that I may one day have such a life. Being one of Ev's many friends and recipient of the scholarship in my last year of high school, I hope my own life is/ will be a testament as to how much Evan impacted this earth. Blessings always, Clarks. Rockin' website, Brendan. Ro'

21 March 2004 at 03:44:58

John Piancastelli

I couldn't imagine lossing a children and the pain associated with the loss. The only thing one can say is god bless & stay strong !!

A friend of Janet's


15 March 2004 at 18:23:06

Flood Family

Dear Joe, Carol, Brendan and Gennie,
Evan is always in our hearts and minds and so are all of you. Thank you so much for this website, Brendan. It's been a while since we visited and it looks great! Love to you always.

08 February 2004 at 20:34:00

Joe Platt

Clarks- Evan will always be the first thing I remember about High School. I was also looking through some of my old papers from American Literature and I found the poem "Thanatopsis" by William Cullen Bryant. You probably have read it already but if you had not, it is really very good. Especially because Bryant wrote it at the age of 17 or 18. And Brendan nice job on the site and especially this guestbook.

07 February 2004 at 02:19:02

pat hillegass

nice job b on the site.

30 January 2004 at 14:58:53

Carol Clark (Ev's Mom)

"If everyone watched the Simpsons, the world would be a better place." Evan Clark
Make your stay on earth worthwhile by keeping firm convictions with a light heart. With hope and love-CC

20 January 2004 at 17:53:48

Joe Clark (Ev's dad)

You will always be with us.

20 January 2004 at 17:25:21

Brendan Clark

Just so everyone knows, after the last guestbook went under, I managed to recover and restore the previous ten entries from a browser cache. Hence their times and dates. Thanks, Brendan.

18 January 2004 at 05:13:16

Laura Conniff

I just stumbled upon this site, thanks to Mary H.'s AIM profile. Brendan, I'm so sorry for your loss - this site is an amazing way to remember your brother. Using your talent to keep his memory alive is an incredible dedication.

18 January 2004 at 05:11:46

John Brophy

Brendan, I can see your love for your brother. And this website is great.

18 January 2004 at 05:11:17

Niall Connellan

am an alum of St. Ignatius College Prep ('02), and although I never met Evan, I will continue to check back at this site from time to time to help keep his memory and spirit alive.

18 January 2004 at 05:10:53

Mary Hamilton

To Mr. and Mrs. Clark, Brendan, and Genny: "See, I am sending an angel ahead of you to guard you along the way and to bring you to the place I have prepared." Exodus 23:20 "The Lord bless thee, and keep thee." Numbers 6:24 Love and Prayers to you all.

18 January 2004 at 05:10:13

Rosemary Zapata

Hi, Although I didn't really know Evan- I did get to meet him a couple of times and I knew some of his friends and from those few experiences, he seemed like a great person and I am pretty sure he was. I am sorry for the loss, I know he would have been great-- but everyone knows already that he was. Much love to him and your family from here at Cornell U. and the Ignatius family. Take care and good luck.

18 January 2004 at 05:09:43


hey i didn't know what was so i decided to check it out. i didn't know it was dedicated to your bro. anyways, it's really inspirational to see you put this together. keep it up man. respect, Jesse

18 January 2004 at 05:09:07

Patrick Sheridan

I know this must be tough for the family and friends Evan left behind. i lost my cousin last year to a tragic accident too, and know it must be hard for the friends and family of Evan every day. Just remember that God is with you, and Evan is looking down on you and watching over you.

18 January 2004 at 05:08:28

Carol Clark

"Nothing can fill the gap when we are away from those we love...We must simply hold out and win through. It is nonsense to say that God fills the gap; He keeps it empty so that our communion with another may be kept alive, even at the cost ofpain" -Dietrich Bonhoeffer Time really doesn't heal; it is the support and grace of those who care that sustains us. Thank you so much. May your hearts be warmed this holiday by recalling all of the spirits who return your love.

18 January 2004 at 05:07:51

Maria Martinez

Know that you and your family are in my prayers. Be well.

18 January 2004 at 05:07:23

Brendan Clark

Hello, and thanks for signing the guestbook. After way too long, I've finally managed to get one working again. Please take a moment to sign it. The only fields you are required to complete to sign are name and comments. Thanks so much for visiting the site.

18 January 2004 at 04:41:31